#365LoveNotesToSelf

#365LoveNotesToSelf is a self-portrait project about giving the person in the mirror two self-loving gifts: time and looking deeply, because…

“If you can’t love yourself, how in the HELL you gonna love somebody else?”

– RuPaul


The First 100 Days – 14 February to 24 March 2017

Among the reasons I started making self-portraits is because I had been struggling for some time with low mood and the negative self-talk kept creeping in. I had the idea that the only thing to make it all better, if you will forgive the artist pun, would be to take matters into my own hands.

It was Valentine’s Day, the perfect day of love and kindness. And on that day, I decided to give myself the gift of presence – that is, time to really look at myself, if only 20 minutes, in the hopes that the gift returned to me will be a moment or two in which to see something worth loving.

14 February 2017, #HappyValentines ‘If you can’t love yourself, how in hell you gonna love somebody else?’ -RuPaul #365LoveNotesToSelf #LoveYourself247365

Beginnings

#365LoveNotes starts with looking, an act at once simple and profound. I mean, we find ourselves in a mirror once or several times a day at a minimum – brushing teeth, styling hair, applying make-up, checking our style. It occurred to me that with all that looking over the years of my life, that if my current mood was anything to go by, that perhaps I had missed something, I had not really seen. So here I began, with several minutes of looking at myself, before anything else.

Then with materials I had to hand, be that ink, charcoal, paper and glue, or whatever that chanced to be at the ends of my fingertips, I tried to express what was looking back at me. This first quirky Valentine, snipped and assembled from women’s lifestyle mags, with its mis-matched pieces and flowers for eyes, urges a gentle admonition, Love Yourself.

Taking a step back, I worried that a year of these might become somewhat of a narcissistic exercise, so it was from the 2nd day that each image would be accompanied by a positive thought about self-love and affirmation.

It was also at this beginning that I was met with the powerful inclination to share these little kindnesses, to let them out of my studio, to give them freedom from the binding of my sketchbook, opening up the possibility that by sharing the grace I give to the person in the mirror, just maybe someone else might find a little moment of love for themselves.

What was the result? Was it what I expected?

I suppose I may never know if any of my creative efforts meant anything to anybody else, but now that I’ve done a stack, I definitely feel I’ve achieved something, if only for me. At the very least, I’ve had these three months of days to focus on specific creative skills that are so essential to artists like myself: looking, mark-making, experimentation – all the while, tending to the garden of my inner well-being.

Of course, just as I’d anticipated, I now have 100 self-portraits, each different to the next. I’ve experienced the joy of learning and discovery that comes from experimenting with different mediums, methods, tools, or concepts. And after the initial week or two, I started thinking in terms of a weekly “theme”, such as “black and white” or “digital” or “playtime” as a way to fire up the next starting point – and the ideas just kept ardently coming, quelling any anxieties I might have had about The Blank White Page.

Most weeks included a #ThrowbackThursday, that is, some self-portrait from the past that I’d done prior to this project – the perfect opportunity to glance back and see how far I’d come!

What have I learnt so far? What has surprised me the most?

I must admit, doing any something-a-day kind of project very quickly and easily becomes a habit, one that I enjoy and one that is most definitely not a chore. Not only that, but I am convinced my drawing/creative skills have improved, and this experience has fostered new ways of expression and making through daily investigation.

More than anything else, though, my original hypothesis is confirmed; deliberate looking at my own face 20 minutes a day really worked – especially on the days I struggle with depression or anxiety, doing a self-portrait definitely made me feel better – and gave me something to look forward to tomorrow. It’s hard to place a value on that; it’s so true, as one of my favourite Swedish proverbs goes,

“The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm”

2 May 2017 #TuesdayThoughts The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.-Swedish proverb. #365LoveNotestoSelf Day 78, ink on paper

There have been surprises, too. Here I was, trucking along with my little project,  thinking not even my partner had noticed I’d started a new one, and out of nowhere, he was adorably curious, getting involved, talking through some ideas for a future week’s theme, and sharing encouragement on Facebook (when he’s not much of a Facebook guy).  Other days, a friend or follower would respond to a portrait, with a retweet, smilies, a thumbs up, or a comment such as, “I really needed that today”. Humbled, I realised that my efforts were touching others.

The biggest ah-hah! moment came when I realised that even “ugly” pictures are still “good”. I might not hold in my hands the most amazingly skilful drawing, but whether or not another person responded positively to what I put out there, I have at the very least enjoyed doing it! In other words, through this project I have gained creative confidence to be assured that what I make is always “good enough”, every day, and not a single of these self-portraits was “bad”. Somehow, a drawing became “good enough”, its intrinsic value realised simply by sharing it, and including it in the context of this project.

And guess what, I have found I do have the audacity to share myself, to show my vulnerability, and I was not in any way harmed by doing so; in fact, I might even be stronger for it.

What were the struggles? What are the best bits so far?

This project has not been without its struggles; some days, it is a tussle to squeeze out 15-20 minutes for myself! And as if confronting the girlfriend in the looking-glass was not hard enough, I wanted to hatch a fresh idea for the next self-portrait, to make it different to ones that came before.

Top three

So here I am, almost a third of the way in, 265 days to go, and if I had to pick three of the best bits, they are:

  1. the pronounced satisfaction of having completed a portfolio of 100 sketches, which could exist as that, or they could be a century of seeds for new projects to grow
  2. markedly improved overall mental health/well-being, while at the same time providing the means to see my way clear of the not-so-good days
  3. heightened creative confidence – there will be days that my artwork won’t be “great” or even “good” but for those other days, I know it will always be “good enough”, and that’s enough to keep going forward.

See the first 100 self-portraits: 

Part 1 – #365LoveNotesToSelf (14 February – 24 May 2017)

The next 100 days – 25 May to September/October 2017

For Part 2 of #365LoveNotes (from 25 May 2017 until I make up my mind to change my mind again), I plan to switch gears a bit. I’ll still be looking at myself (cuz what’s not to love there, right?), but this time, the gaze is through the lens of a bit of art history. What I want to try and do is to emulate the self-portraits of other artists, from long-dead medieval craftsman that I’ve dug up from down the back of the Internet, to some of my living peers. The exciting thing is, I don’t know what to expect or what I will find by looking through another artist’s eyes; but I’m excited by the prospects. At the very least, this approach may suggest new avenues for my own artwork by as I toy with ways of making that maybe I haven’t used or considered already.

See the next 100 days of self-portraits:

Part 2 – #365LoveNotesToSelf (25 May to 1 September 2017)

What comes next?

I have no idea will happen come day 201, but I’m sure I will think of something!

Stay tuned!

 

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